I was just reading an old blog by Zondra Hughes on the 10 rules for being a sidepiece. After reading the blog, and many others like it, I could only say, “WOW!”
It’s amazing that the whole idea of men (or women) having sidepieces has become an acceptable subject matter for blogs, talk shows, films, and particularly music.
VH1 blogger Alexa Tietjen, wrote, “The side piece figure is alive and well in music. Men and women alike have singing about the trials and tribulations of feeling stuck in love triangles for decades, and some even think that being the side piece can be boatloads of fun.” An accompanying video even offers guidance on how to successfully maintain a sidepiece.
With all the drama associated with this sidepiece phenomenon that is so common today, why can’t we have a serious discussion on people moving from this secret world of sharing to open and honest sharing?
I know a lot of people will jump up and declare, “Hell No! I’m not sharing my man or woman!”
And, I understand why those people feel that way. But, there is a group of people already in the act of being a sidepiece or having a sidepiece. Why can’t those people at least think about moving from the down-low, to openly and honestly embracing the life they are already living?
To all the Sidepieces out there (male and female), wouldn’t you be happier being a true part of the team, and not something on the side?
I guess we will never know unless we get the courage to consider the alternative to being a sidepiece: coming to the acceptance of open and honest sharing.
If we can talk about Sidepieces (and develop rules for being a Sidepiece), then we can surely talk about creating pathways for healthy, open sharing.
By A. Moriel McClerklin